My Dive into the World of Escorts

[Slaughterhouserock]

*Disclaimer: this involves me talking about escorts I've seen. If you find that offensive, fuck off. If you don't, be warned, it's not all vanilla or happy endings. Don't know why I'm writing this at all, other than I've always been fascinated by sex workers.

I've had sex with more women in the past six months than I have in the past 39 years. Why? Escorts. Why escorts? Because I'm an anti-social nerd that generally doesn't get along with anyone. Paying someone to hang out isn't something I had thought of until recently due to being locked up in my apartment for so long. It started out simple enough. Found a chick that seemed nice, started seeing her about every other week. We'd watch movies, talk about all sorts of fucked up shit, and have sex. While she was nice, she was not someone I would hang out with under normal circumstances due to her weird hippy ways(astrology, past lives, crystals, the whole shebang). So I stopped seeing here and started looking around for what else was out there.

I eventually found several sites and saw women from all of them. Some were cool, some were nuts, some obviously hated what they do, some loved what they do. I got scammed once with a bait and switch. My fault, but the "switch" wasn't bad, so I didn't even bring it up. Other than that, I only had one bad experience. The girl was mental, super friendly and everything until she came in contact with my dick. It was like a switch flipped in her head and she was suddenly aggressive and rude. I was able to calm her down and we talked for the remaining time. She seemed happy in the end, but it stressed me the fuck out. Weird situation.

I saw this super cool chick that was heavily into kink. I think scat was the only thing she wasn't into, everything else was fair game. Total painslut. So I ended up slapping her around before and during sex. New for me, but she was into it, and that's really all the incentive I need. She was really nice and a total weirdo outside of the bedroom, too. Talked a ton about horror(she brought up A Serbian Film and tons of body horror stuff). She had just started escorting, and, unfortunately, stopped a week later, so I never got to see her again(dunno why, possibly had a bad experience, possibly realized she made more doing online stuff). She would have fit in here or with my irl friends perfectly, so it sucks she dropped out before I got to know her better. She does lots of online shit, though. If anyone's interested in BDSM or other weird kink shit, google Nina Chrome, she's probably got you covered.

I saw another kink provider that was really into bondage. First session was fun, used restraints and some toys. Second time I saw her, she was kinda out of it and rushing things. She was a model and just did this on the side, so it's not surprising. Never saw her again after that, but models aren't my type anyway.

There was the girl I ended up becoming friends with. We hit it off the first night and she stayed over the second night. Great times, and she was super relatable since we're both depressive, suicidal, have some shared traumas, and all that happy fun stuff. She disappeared on me in a depressive fit and I haven't been able to reach her since. I am worried for her, but it's out of my hands unless she contacts me. Hard to talk to someone like that(I know, I've been there), but hopefully she comes around.

There were the two trans chicks. Looked like women, just were packing down below. It should be obvious to anyone who's known me for awhile that I'm down with anal, so I said fuck it, and gave it a shot. The first girl and I didn't get along at all. Total personality clash from the moment I walked in. That's the down side to these things, you don't really know who you're meeting and if you'll be compatible. Still, we went about our business. The second girl was fucking great, though. She was on tour, so I don't think I'll see her again unless she passes through again. Weird thing was, she was traveling with her boyfriend, so that must have been a little awkward for him.

There was the ditzy girl that just does it when she needs some extra cash(like getting christmas presents for her kid). She was cool, easy to get along with, and crazy in bed. Only saw her once because scheduling was a fucking nightmare and I'm hesitant to go through that again. Still might, cause she was fun to be around.

There's the lady with the absolute dump truck of an ass. Seriously. Never seen an ass that big, even bigger than fake ones in porn. And she was fucking tiny, 5'2", which just made it look insane. She's one of the ones that loves her job. Down for just about anything and has fun doing it. She was offered to do porn a few times, but turned it down, because she doesn't want her kids to end up seeing their mom having sex or deal with kids at school giving them shit about it. Fair enough. Plus, she says she makes good money as it is, which is why she quit her nursing job years ago. She was nice, but not a personality I can tolerate for long periods of time(that's on me, she's fine), so I haven't been to see her in awhile.

I've been turned down a couple times, too. One lady straight up told me she couldn't find enough information on me to feel comfortable seeing me. Downside to having no social media presence, I guess. Another said no because I didn't have any references at the time. References are the background check of the escort world. An escort references you, so other escorts know you're not a nutjob, won't try to hurt them or rob them, and are hygienic(cause no one wants to fuck a gross dude). Oddly enough, I never checked back with either of them after I got references. I should, though, cause they were both nerds, which is what caught my eye in the first place.

There was the drug addict. I thought this one would be a total disaster when she asked if it was ok if she snorted some coke, but she was the most laid back cokehead I've ever met. Super relaxed and very attentive. She also had the biggest tits I've ever seen(claims they weigh 23 lbs.), but I'm not a boob guy, so they were lost on me. It's funny though, that she was thrilled when I held them, because it relived her back pain. Guys generally don't think about that side of things. Also, she's the only person I've ever met that had a ticklish twat. Fucking weird shit. Still cool to hang out with, though.

Lastly, there's the one you always here stories about. The one with the baby daddy that treats her like shit. The one that has had multiple abusive clients take advantage of her(including biting her vulva and knocking out one of her teeth). The one that's doing all that she can just to fucking survive. I didn't know any of this going in, of course. Things went like normal, but afterward she said she was surprised I was nice to her. Then came the history dump. I was not prepared for all of that. Still can't process all of it. Now she's talking to me pretty regularly and we're working on a plan to get her and her kid away from her abuser. Her kid's been sick this past week, even ended up in the hospital, so we've been waiting for that to settle down. Fucked up situation, but hopefully she'll be out of it soon.

So yeah, lots of interesting people out there doing a job that makes them hated by most of society. Meanwhile, they've been keeping me sane(mostly) and I've met people I would have never otherwise even talked to. Unfortunately, most are used to being treated like a fuck doll when on the clock, but when you treat them like a human being, they're generally nice and fun to be around.

[Reign in Blood]

This is perfect right before Valentine's Day. Everything a growing boy romantic needs.

[Headhunter]

Zero judgment and enjoyed reading. I went to a brothel a few times when I was living in Europe. That’s a cool thing about Europe, there’s no stigma, just a business built around demand as it should be.

[DancesWithWerewolves]

Quite the tale. Yeah, no judgement. I've been curious about that world, but figured I'd be the type that gets screwed, and not in the fun way.

[Reign in Blood]

Fuck you guys, no judgment. I'm still laughing about the tranny bit "so I said fuck it, and gave it a shot."

[DancesWithWerewolves]

Fuck you guys, no judgment. I'm still laughing about the tranny bit "so I said fuck it, and gave it a shot."

I knew, upon reading that part, that me not being into anal would be the deal breaker with a trans chick that's still pack'n

[Headhunter]

Fuck you guys, no judgment. I'm still laughing about the tranny bit "so I said fuck it, and gave it a shot."

Butt sex brings people of all stripes together.

[Jmac Attack]

That was refreshing to read such honesty. No judgement from me. I've become close to a few trans people.

It's funny, a dude I worked with was always showing me videos and pics of lady's that were in his eyes "passable" and how he was even fooled. Eventually I told him to just admit he was attracted to them. He got pissed. Lol. I just never thought it was a big deal.

Sexuality is a fascinating subject.

[Dream]

Can I pick your brain for more details on the setting this up and what initial interactions were like? The business side of things, so to speak?

[Slaughterhouserock]

This is perfect right before Valentine's Day. Everything a growing boy romantic needs.

Didn't even think about that until you mentioned it. Fuck valentine's day, though.

Zero judgment and enjoyed reading. I went to a brothel a few times when I was living in Europe. That’s a cool thing about Europe, there’s no stigma, just a business built around demand as it should be.

Agreed. No reason this shit should be illegal. Just makes it more dangerous for everyone involved.

Quite the tale. Yeah, no judgement. I've been curious about that world, but figured I'd be the type that gets screwed, and not in the fun way.

Due diligence. There are legit sites with reviews and what not to make it easier, but there are others where it's up to you to figure out if someone's real or not. All up to you and what you're willing to gamble to get laid.

Fuck you guys, no judgment. I'm still laughing about the tranny bit "so I said fuck it, and gave it a shot."

Enh, you never know if you're into something unless you try it.

That was refreshing to read such honesty. No judgement from me. I've become close to a few trans people.

It's funny, a dude I worked with was always showing me videos and pics of lady's that were in his eyes "passable" and how he was even fooled. Eventually I told him to just admit he was attracted to them. He got pissed. Lol. I just never thought it was a big deal.

Sexuality is a fascinating subject.

I don't find men attractive, but there are some good looking trans chicks out there. Not the norm by any means, though. It's pretty fucking rare to see one where there isn't a single telling feature other than the bulge in their pants. Most straight dudes think liking trans women makes them gay. It just means you're ok with dick, but still like feminine features.

And I agree, sexuality is fascinating.

[Slaughterhouserock]

Can I pick your brain for more details on the setting this up and what initial interactions were like? The business side of things, so to speak?

Sure. It varies by person and by where they put their ad(don't click links unless you have an adblocker and a popup blocker). For instance, there's TNAboard, which is basically a message board where providers post ads, people can leave reviews on their experiences, and providers can vouch for hobbyists. Then there's places like Tryst, Slixa, and Eros, which are reputable, but are ads only. Then there's places where it's a total crapshoot like Listcrawler, Skip the Games, and Erotic Monkey. The legit sites require the provider to pay to post, which is why the free sites are where you'll find all the fake shit.

So, say you're some nerd like me that's looking for some companionship. You head to one of these sites, dig through all the ads to find someone you're interested in, read the ad to find out how they want you to contact them and if they require anything from you for verification. Contact is generally via text or email. In the case of TNAboard, they might ask you to PM them in addition to texting them, so they can check out your profile for vouches, reviews, alerts, etc. Each provider does verification differently. Some want you to send them a pic of you, possibly doing something/holding up a sign. Some require you have references from other providers. Some ask for social media links or other shit. It varies wildly, but those are the normal ways.

Once you've verified them and they verified you, you set up a day/time to meet and a location, either an incall(her place) or an outcall(your place). Incalls are usually hotels. If it is a hotel, they'll generally text you the address about an hour beforehand, then the room number once you tell them you've arrived. Outcalls are up to the hobbyist. I generally give my info a day before because my place is fucking difficult to navigate without directions. If they give you any specific instructions(such as don't go in the lobby, they'll come out to you), you do that. If not, you probably fucked yourself.

Now you're at the place. You should have the cash in an unsealed envelope which you place either at a spot they told you to in their ad, or you put it someplace visible. You never give it to them directly as that makes it payment in the eyes of the law and it's jail time for somebody if someone's a cop. You don't mention it, you just put it there. I generally will hit the bathroom to take a leak and wash my hands beforehand, which gives them time to check that the money is good and put it away. In an outcall, I just kinda have to be there since it's my place. The cost itself varies wildly by provider. Around here, it's typically anywhere from $200/hour-$500/hour, but I've seen less and far more(one was $4000/hour, which was funny).

From that point, it's all up in the air as to what happens. Some like to have a little chit chat, some like to get right to business. It also depends on the time you booked. It can be anywhere from 15 minutes(a quick visit/QV) to several hours to overnight to all day. I usually do 2-3 hours, since I'm not comfortable with just walking in, boning someone, then leaving. I've been told QV's are where the real money is, though, since longer visits are generally more cost effective(i.e. more time/dollar spent). Also, each provider has a "menu". Basically, it's a list of shit they will/won't do. Again, it varies wildly by provider, so you gotta make sure they are ok with whatever it is you're looking for before you set things up.

That covers most of it. Let me know if you have any more questions, or if something doesn't make sense.

[Slaughterhouserock]

Another fun bit: lots of pornstars do escort shit on the side. Several are on Eros(they even have a XXX filter for them), but most you have to dig to find, email them and ask, or sign up to Porn Companions. I haven't signed up there because it's a weird process and there aren't any pornstars around here anyway. It's interesting to see who does it, though.

[Dream]

Makes perfect sense and answers all of my questions including some I wouldn't have thought to ask. I may come back to this with more questions later. I'm fascinated and curious about the inner workings of this stuff and want to make sure I get details right for a few stories I've been working on.

Kudos!

[Slaughterhouserock]

Another place people can check out is USA Sex Guide. It's a forum that's mostly used for reviews and to find intel on providers that seem sketchy. It's a total meatfest there, though, so lots of douchebags. Still, it's another way to check if you're not sure about someone.

[Slaughterhouserock]

Makes perfect sense and answers all of my questions including some I wouldn't have thought to ask. I may come back to this with more questions later. I'm fascinated and curious about the inner workings of this stuff and want to make sure I get details right for a few stories I've been working on.

Kudos!

Good deal. From what I've been told, I'm not the normal client, so take any personal shit I say with a bit of salt.

Another thing I thought about is that while most like to have some notice before scheduling, some don't want you to contact them unless you're setting something up for right now. Makes things weird if it's not mentioned in their ad, and I even got bitched at once for trying to schedule for a few days later instead of that night. Never saw her, because I'm not paying to see someone that bitchy.

On the business side of things, these women are selling not just their body, but their personality, too. Some get that, some don't. And work ethic is a bit of a thing. I had one lady tell me that she would gladly go over the allotted time if the guy hadn't gotten off yet, because it's her job. Others set timers and expect you out the door as soon as it goes off. I get both sides of it, so it's interesting to see which side people fall on.

BBFS(bareback full sex) is another huge debate in the scene. It's generally frowned upon in public, but tons of women do it for a fee. Kinda sketchy, because who knows what kinds of STD's and shit are being passed around from that. If they were open about it, people would know to either avoid them or go to them if that's what they're into.

Since you're writing about this stuff, here's a link to some common sex worker acronyms. It's not all-encompassing, but it's most of what's out there.

[DancesWithWerewolves]

Another fun bit: lots of pornstars do escort shit on the side. Several are on Eros(they even have a XXX filter for them), but most you have to dig to find, email them and ask, or sign up to Porn Companions. I haven't signed up there because it's a weird process and there aren't any pornstars around here anyway. It's interesting to see who does it, though.

Aye, that's one of the reasons that made me more open to the idea of it was me finding out about that. And I'm in an area that many are around (socal/Vegas area).

[Slaughterhouserock]

Aye, that's one of the reasons that made me more open to the idea of it was me finding out about that. And I'm in an area that many are around (socal/Vegas area).

The major downside to porn escorts is the price. It's typically a minimum of $1500/hour.

[Reign in Blood]

Aye, that's one of the reasons that made me more open to the idea of it was me finding out about that. And I'm in an area that many are around (socal/Vegas area).

The major downside to porn escorts is the price. It's typically a minimum of $1500/hour.

No wonder they quit nursing.

[Dream]

Makes perfect sense and answers all of my questions including some I wouldn't have thought to ask. I may come back to this with more questions later. I'm fascinated and curious about the inner workings of this stuff and want to make sure I get details right for a few stories I've been working on.

Kudos!

Good deal. From what I've been told, I'm not the normal client, so take any personal shit I say with a bit of salt.

Another thing I thought about is that while most like to have some notice before scheduling, some don't want you to contact them unless you're setting something up for right now. Makes things weird if it's not mentioned in their ad, and I even got bitched at once for trying to schedule for a few days later instead of that night. Never saw her, because I'm not paying to see someone that bitchy.

On the business side of things, these women are selling not just their body, but their personality, too. Some get that, some don't. And work ethic is a bit of a thing. I had one lady tell me that she would gladly go over the allotted time if the guy hadn't gotten off yet, because it's her job. Others set timers and expect you out the door as soon as it goes off. I get both sides of it, so it's interesting to see which side people fall on.

BBFS(bareback full sex) is another huge debate in the scene. It's generally frowned upon in public, but tons of women do it for a fee. Kinda sketchy, because who knows what kinds of STD's and shit are being passed around from that. If they were open about it, people would know to either avoid them or go to them if that's what they're into.

Since you're writing about this stuff, here's a link to some common sex worker acronyms. It's not all-encompassing, but it's most of what's out there.

Thank you!

Also, you're exactly the kind of client experience I want to know about because you run the gamut of possibilities without shying away from talking about stuff some people would hide if questioned about their experience. I know I'm not getting a doctored truth from you, just the no bullshit truth.

[Dream]

Aye, that's one of the reasons that made me more open to the idea of it was me finding out about that. And I'm in an area that many are around (socal/Vegas area).

The major downside to porn escorts is the price. It's typically a minimum of $1500/hour.

No wonder they quit nursing.

When I read that, medical nursing was not what came to mind and my immediate thought was "Missed business opportunity, some guys would probably pay extra for that experience."