Tiggnutz wrote:Foo wrote:Some dude is now literally claiming he had ptsd for six months because Spacey touched his crotch.
I'm sure lots of bullshitters will come a running but I'm not going to use it as justification not to take real potential victims seriously. I can't imagine how hard it would be to live with having had that happen to you than you finally speak out and you get called a greedy whore or a liar.
I can't speak on being called greedy, but being called a liar absolutely sucks and is one of the main reasons people don't speak out. Other reasons are feeling ashamed, being threatened, or fearing retaliation from those in power.
It's one of the few crimes where the victim has to prove they were victimized and anything short of serious physical injury is seen as a nothing more than a scorned lover out for revenge even if they have nothing to gain from it. I've never heard a victim of theft have to defend leaving a valuable object out in view of potential thieves, but someone who was sexually assaulted has to prove they weren't displaying themselves to potential rapists. A carjacking victim has never been asked how forcefully they told the carjacker "No," but a victim of assault has to defend their actions or lack thereof even though it's well known that many people lock up during an assault and are incapable of fighting back or verbalizing because they are in shock. Someone who was mugged is believed even if there are no signs of injury but someone who was sexually assaulted with no signs of injury is just an easy girl/guy who regretted their actions the next day and is trying to get back at the person they slept with.
And the odds of sexual assault against children is extremely low the further away from relatives and family friends you move. I seriously doubt any of the parents of kids abused in Hollywood were unaware of the events, they just didn't care enough to stop it, or worse, encouraged it for a glimpse of fame.
Gotta admit I've been having a hell of a hard time with all of this, but I've also been a little relieved to see that the majority of people talking about stuff that happened to them wasn't just one or two minor incidences, it's a stream of shit, often beginning at a very young age. I kept quiet for a really fucking long time cause there were so many instances in my life that shit happened to me I didn't think it was believable so why bother dragging it all back up when it's easier to just completely hate myself?
When I did finally bring it up, you guys were the ones I told and it was fucking hard and I still don't know if any of you believed me or not, judging by some of your opinions in this thread, probably not, but it really doesn't matter anymore cause I'm actually trying to deal with it now instead of pretending it doesn't bother me and bottling it up until the next time I try to kill myself.
So yeah, it hurts to think you won't be believed and that's enough to keep you quiet about it. Continuing the idea of false accusations being more problematic than actual assaults is a great way to ensure low-lifes get away with assault because it scares victims into thinking they won't be believed, so they don't speak up.